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Saturday, 18 July 2015

Elust #72

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Photo courtesy of Tabitha Rayne

Welcome to Elust #72 

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Wednesday, 24 June 2015

What Makes it Erotica?

I've been chatting with authors recently about labels. Genre labels.

Why are some mainstream books that contain lots of sex not labelled erotica?

Why do I label my writing and art erotic? Or at the very least, sensual?

Well, I guess I can only speak from my point of view. I worry sometimes that labelling a piece of work 'erotic' is putting a warning on it. Why would you need to be warned about a story that contains all facets of human existence? Birth, violence, sex, death, longing, desire - all the good stuff that make up a story. Well, apart from trying to make sure only adults get hold of it, here's why I think I put the label on mine. I don't put the sex and sensuality in my tales simply because the story and characters demand it. I do it because I want it to be a sensual experience for the reader. I'm not simply trying to tell their story, I'm hoping their story will arouse you and make you desirous of the sensual.
Does that make sense? Much in the same way that authors of horror aren't just writing about horrible things to put their characters through, no, they want to scare you. They want to involve you in the fear. They are trying to elicit that response in you.

But still... why label it? A warning? Perhaps just 'adult' would suffice.
I was going to draw a conclusion but I've come full circle!

What makes a piece of work erotic?
Sensual?
I think it's partly what the artist intended but more importantly, how the reader/ viewer experiences it.
I draw all my pictures with a hue of the erotic in mind - same with my stories, even if there is no actual sex, there is erotic intent.

What do you think?
Here's one of my drawings that I felt was quite erotic, yet not explicit.


And here's the start of a story which I tried to make as sexy as possible without any sex. Erotica?

The Birthday Cake

I pluck one of the candles out of the thick frosting and hold it out to her, still smouldering.
“Why don't you wrap your lips around it and lick it clean?”
Her face is stony and her exasperated breath matches the look in her eyes.
“Don't be crass Quentin.”
Quentin.
She's been calling me my full name for the past few days. I'm still unsure of what has caused this most recent mood but it is certainly something of my doing. She does this to 'teach me a lesson' when I've been bad. I never know when or how I pass her test but we might be on the cusp tonight if I play this right.
“Oh go on,” I persevere, waving the sticky candle over the table. It hasn't escaped my notice that she didn't go to the trouble of buying those little coloured birthday candles but plumped instead for the emergency dinner ones from the bits and bobs drawer. At least she'd made a cake. That's something. An olive branch of sorts. “It would be a shame to waste this creamy celebration.”
A flicker at the corner of her mouth hints at a thaw. My groin twitches at the thought of watching her ease the sugary shaft into her pout and teasing me, undulating her tongue around and around. I can even hear the slide and pop as she pulls it out, clean and slick with her saliva. I waggle the candle again, urging her to take it from me, lifting my eyebrow in a way I hope is sexy.
She rolls her eyes but then very slowly, reaches out.
I think about snatching my hand away and making her come closer but relinquish it in favour of nurturing the fragile moment. It's time to play by her rules precisely. Her fingers hover slightly and for a moment I think she might withdraw them. I hold my breath as she takes the candle and the ice melts a little more.
I don't want to be too eager so I settle back and just watch. Her gaze meets mine and she lifts the frosting to her lips. Her pupils dilate and she shifts in her seat. Does she feel it? She must. The rigid pose softens and she smears the soft butter icing over her red, red lips easing them open with the end of the candle. It is exactly what I'd seen in my mind just a few seconds ago.
White blobs of the icing cream cling to her lips as she opens her mouth, wrapping her tongue around the candle, sucking and licking it clean. Her mouth is such a sensual thing, moving and teasing me, just as I want. My cock swells and strains in my jeans but I remain still, not wanting to break the static spell that hangs between us.

The skin at her throat blushes crimson as she sucks, pushing the candle in deeper. It is a good sign. She shifts a little and I know if I peek under the table, her legs will be parted. Lust hangs heavy on her expression now and I inhale deeply, feeling confident this is the start of something. Something to heal and shatter the chill of the past few days. I venture a hand to her knee and it yields to my touch, falling to where I push. Running my palm up her inner thigh I shudder when I feel the nylon change to lace...

There you have it - I teased you a little - that's only part of it :D

If you want to read the rest of that story it's from An Intimate Education - charity anthology raising money for Brook Advisory


I'd love to hear your thoughts on genre labelling in general, not just erotica x x x

Wednesday, 15 January 2014

#bloghop2014 Q&A

Hey there me hearties!

This is lovely Orleander! Go visit her
My delightful new rock chick buddy Orleander Plume tagged me for this blog hop Q and A fresh for 2014. Check out her answers here. I will tag 2 more unsuspecting writers at the end of this post!

If you could achieve anything with your writing in 2014, what would it be?

Well, to be very honest with you I would like to sell more books! Really - it would be fab to know that the stories I am compelled and driven to write are being read... However please see answers to demon slaying question! I am so delighted that most if not very close to all my erotic writings that I submit are taken up by publishers and those stories and books go on to get some good reviews - but... when unleashed on the lovely reading public, they aren't shifting. It's a toughie. I try and do all the right things to market the books and generate enthusiasm but so far... nada - well, at least not much. I did a giveaway - a free book - and nobody took up the offer... so there is something I'm doing wrong! I even found one of my books on a pirate site - there had been zero downloads! Wow - that must be a new record :D

What are the top three demons you must slay to achieve your goals in 2014?

I often wonder if what I do is a good thing that contributes in a good way to other people's lives. After all - it is quite a self indulgent thing to get what is inside you out in an artistic way and then expect that other people are going to spend their money/time reading/consuming it. And then, I have the opposite thought where I realise, but that's what I want from other people/artists/writers - I want to consume their honesty/ artistry and creativity. It makes me feel alive to read stories or look at pictures.

So based on the above - my top 3 demons I must slay are:

1: Self doubt
2: Fear of self promotion (after all, how will readers know about my books if I don't bother to tell them?)
3: Internet OCD. I tremble with every 'like' I do on Facebook - every tweet I make - every comment I post - every blog I write - every email I send. Everything I do is filled with the horror that it may not be read in the spirit I intended - I am a very light hearted and positive person (though from this blog, you might think otherwise :D ) - and to think something I write may be taken 'the wrong way' kills me! (this post will probably take 3 weeks to write...)

Conversely, I find my creative writing  super easy to let go of - in fact I want you to explore that in whichever way you do - I am delighted by others' interpretation of my work and how it changes in different people's heads. I think that is a fascinating and necessary part of being creative - once you pass it out - it isn't really yours any more - the stories then belong to the readers - not the writers.

Name three things that inspire you to write

I'll just go straight to the list this time!

1: Calls for submissions! For short stories I love a prompt - there might be nothing in my head and the writer's block may be looming but a quick squizz at an anthology shout out usually gets my juices going.
2: My muse! My A who has been inspiring my writing for years now.
3: Ideas. That might sound obvious but without that spark, where would you be? I can be inspired by everything I see and hear, but it will be that one image, word or heard conversation which will inspire an idea.

What advice do you have for a new writer who is considering writing fiction?

Do it for you. That is it. The first biggest hurdle is getting down to actually writing - you have to write what is in your heart - the rest will come. I write because I would go insane if I didn't. So whatever happens to it afterwards, in the long run doesn't matter. Of course it is amazing to be published and that's what I aspire to but I know that even if nobody ever read anything I wrote - I would still write.

Thanks for tagging me Ms Plume! I hope the answers weren't too intense ;)

I tag two gorgeous ladies:
Kd Grace
Tilly Hunter

Tuesday, 22 October 2013

Tis Done!

Well chaps and chapessess,

I'm just stopping by to exclaim that I finished a manuscript! I just put down the final word on my last book in The Meeting Point trilogy - and it was the word FIN. I always end my books with that one word. I always have - The End just doesn't seem to fit for me. Maybe FIN is pretentious or a bit dramatic, but hey- I'm a writer! It's what I do - pretend and be dramatic *flounce* :D

So now what?

Welllll, don't expect to see this book anytime soon! I have to go through every word and punctuation mark until I'm happy about the grammar, style, pacing, characterisation, mood, tone, continuity, plot line and conclusion. Because it's a trilogy, I'll have to go through the other two books *plug* A Clockwork Butterfly and Taking Flight (on sale now) - to see if I've forgotten about any plot twists or characters that have just simply disappeared from my memory! As if, surely not! But hey, it happens...

So far from reaching from the champers... oh who am I kidding, pass the bubbly! There may be a long way to go, but for now, I'll take the joy and satisfaction that comes from getting it down and out of my brain that ends with the delightfully dramatic and pretentious, FIN.

Thanks for stopping by x x x

PS - shhh, don't tell anyone but the book is called Finding Unity.
Here's a bit about The Meeting Point: It's an erotic trilogy exploring a future where the world is in peril and humans are facing extintion. Don't worry - it is still a world of beauty and passion where everyone delights in the spiritual joy of sexual abandon :D
Here are some pictures of our world which inspires, fulfills and excites me every day...




Growing, not slipping

Wednesday, 29 May 2013

Erotica is good for you

Good morning.
Just a quickie this morning to say...
I believe reading and writing erotic stories is good for you.
It can help make a connection between you and yourself, your partner(s), your mind, your body and your
spirit.
Exploring your sexual world with the help of saucy literature can make the experience even more beautiful.
This is not just my opinion because I'm a naughty romance writer, (of course it's what I believe, but  I'm also a reader) some of my dear friends have told me too.
I just wanted to share my thoughts on this this morning.
Erotic and proud ;)


Monday, 12 March 2012

Erotica and me

This post will probably never see the light of day - you see I have a strange problem - a kind of internet OCD. Anything I write or comment or submit to online, including emails, blog posts, letters, has been worried over, written, re-written - is it saying what I want it to say? Will it be taken in the spirit I intended? Could it be interpreted badly? Even clicking 'like' on a post sends my heart racing.

The only exception to this rule, is my actual story writing. That is where I am free and easy with everything I've got to say. It's like it comes from somewhere other than myself - I go into the realm of my own imagination and just let it all out. I can write over 60k words and not worry about it at all.

So why erotica?
When I was a teen I found some gentlemen's magazines and my world was complete - what fun I had, the things I was reading put into words the images I had in my head and wow, it was exciting! And then, I read My Secret Garden and Men In Love and Women on Top. Even better! These books with women's fantasies inside were amazing to me - some of the activities didn't ring my bell, but I feel richer for having read them, and some, well, I can close my eyes even now and read those beautifully put together words of erotic fantasy. And there's the word - fantasy.

Then, one day it somehow filtered into my mind through friends and the media that it was wrong to be titillated by such work. Porn was degrading to women and evil. I was horrified. I had never felt degraded, only extremely turned on, therefore, I must be evil - or worse, a bad feminist - or not a feminist at all. It really damaged me to feel like this. I really felt ashamed of my love of reading about sex - not the factual how to sex, but the explicit fantastical depictions in writing.

And so, I buried my love in a shameful grave, saving my exploration for my own mind and body with my partner. For a very long time.

And then, I started to write my own stories. And one day I submitted one to an Xcite anthology - and guess what? It got published and here I am over a year later with many more stories out, a novella and a soon to be novel. And yes, they are all about sex and erotica. I was worried my work would be too explicit - what with using such terms as the C word...

I needn't have worried at all - I started reading everything Xcite had to offer (well, that's an exaggeration - I'm a slow reader but you get my drift) - then Total E bound, Beachwalk, Ravenous and on and on. I filled myself up with the stories I'd craved for so many years. And the erotica community welcomed me. In all my life, I have never been made to feel part of something more than I have with the writers of romance and erotica - what a wonderful, lovely bunch of people.

But, something still lingers from my years of suppression. I do not shout loud and proud about what I do - close friends know - some think it's ace, others (strangely those I thought most open minded), visibly squirm and I have to assure them that no, I won't make you read it. As soon as someone hesitates with their response, I dive back into my shell.

I love that some of the erotica writers I have become friends with online have some really positive articles published in the news, really bigging up erotica to be the wonderful thing it is, thank you.

I think that sexual love is the most amazing thing you can share with another human - it heals, it bonds, it transcends, it thrills, it sets the relationship apart from all others. And to read and write about it is even better (well, not quite)!

So readers, if you have made it to the bottom of this post - thank you - this opening of myself has been pure torture for me and I may delete it by tomorrow, but for today, here I am.

Love T x x

Monday, 6 February 2012

Things that will distract me all day

Hi there,

I have just got the first round of edits back for A Clockwork Butterfly - my futuristic romp - and it is always something I enjoy doing - first of all - there is always a deadline; I thrive on a deadline. Secondly, thank goodness there's an editor to pick up on the things I've missed and bring out the best.

However, deadline or no deadline, there are a few things which will distract me until I get into my writing room - where all outside life ceases to exist - I just have to make it through the door...

Until then, I will be thinking about:

  1. Unblocking the kitchen sink - think somebody might have pushed spaghetti down it instead of pulling it out - grrr.
  2. My new shoes - they are gorgeous - think I may just put them on anyway...
  3. What is involved in a blog hop and should I sign up for one? There's loads right now and they look like fun.
  4. My jaw which seems unable to shut completely - maybe slightly unhinged? (the jaw...not me)
  5. Ughhh, the wallpaper which is hanging off in the hallway... shall I just...
  6. This is the biggest one - HOW CAN I GET TO EROTICON 2012 in three weeks? It's miles away so will involve a mini-break and being able to meet all the ladies I love (yeay! - but major household organisation, train/flights/hotel)
  7. The script I'm currently writing.
As I will have written on my gravestone - It all seems so important at the time!

Now, I think I have chased everything out of my brain sufficiently to make space for my edits.

Thanks for sharing the rant and have a lovely day,

T x x

Wednesday, 21 December 2011

Missed You!

Oh my little blog, how I've missed you!

I have been beavering away finally finishing my novel, The Clockwork Butterfly. I'm really pleased with it and now working on the synopsis... this, my friends is a different matter. Trying to condense your riveting, witty, sexy, 255 page book down to a few key scenes is just horrendous! In fact, it is a real skill, I think. There must be professional synopsis writers out there...?

Anyway, my poor book, which this morning I was floating on air about, now sounds just chaotic and odd. I think my deadline for submitting it to publisher by Christmas, may have to be rethought...

Enough of this! Let's talk about Christmas and New Year!

I just love this time of year - I dread the dark nights so the holiday season is very welcome indeed! I will be up at the crack of dawn on Christmas morning, tearing open my stocking and getting tiddly on Champers first thing - my little tradition I keep all for myself.

My very exciting news for January is that the Wonderful, delicious, Justine Elyot will be joining me over at Spicin' it Up on the 17th to talk about her new book, Meeting Her Match.

So, my friends, I wish you joy, peace and love for the holidays - and I hope Santa is good to you!

Love T x x x

Friday, 23 September 2011

Spicy Bloggery


The lady authors at Beachwalk Press have joined pens for our new romantic group blog
Spicin' It Up!
Come along and join us for our launch on Monday 26th.
I will be your host on Tuesday (and every Tuesday, so get in touch if you fancy joining me for a stop and chat!) I'll be blogging about goodness knows what and giving away of a copy of Mia's Books - published by Beachwalk in July. Beachwalk books are now available at Coffee Time Romance with a 20% discount, limited time only!

*I shall of course be blogging in the style of a true romance author in my billowing pink nightgown with a box of chocolates in one hand and a libation in the other...

Thursday, 19 May 2011

Procrastination...

Procrastination, now begins, keep the . . . momentum . .
Why am I so distracted? I have a great idea for a new novel, read it to the Big A and he loved it - I've developed the plot - got the characters - I've even got the time to write the bloody thing, so why, tell me, have I...
1 - painted the garden fence
2 - sorted out a bag of nails and screws into sizes and types
3 - washed every item of clothing in the house, whether dirty or clean
4 - moved a wood stack
5 - epilated my legs (ouch, eek, torture)
6 - stared at my cuticles
7 - cooked a ham
8 - started writing a blog about it?

Ok, does this now mean it is out my system? Can I go write now?
Ahhh, thank you...

Wednesday, 8 December 2010

Where do you get the time?!

As a writer I am amazed at how quickly time flies! I sit down to write, check emails, update blogs, Facebook, Twitter, then it's time to edit a proposal, submit, edit, submit, fret over said submission, research, keep up to date with other blogs, Facebook, Twitter, forums, my God! When I see how much other people get up to I am amazed! Where do you find the time to be so cyber active??? Sometimes I have to dig myself a little hole and shut myself off to finish a story or chapter. Then, I can reward myself with a little check up to see what you are all up to. It's fascinating to be able to get instant insights into other people's worlds.
For now though, I can feel a story nagging at me, insisting on some attention. If I am gone for a while, you'll know why...

Monday, 8 November 2010

Absorbing and Being Absorbed

Well, another lovely day writing about my new best friend, Mia and her erotic books and ghost lovers. It is incredible how real the characters you create as a writer become and how much you care for them. I really feel for Mia and her struggle with coming to terms with the fact that the best sex she has ever had is with a ghost! It is also strange not knowing quite what will happen to the characters as the story unfolds, even though you as the author are the master of their destinies...